Recently I had a discussion with a close friend and he stated that he missed the around the way girls. Until that point, I hadn’t realized that around the way girls was pretty much becoming extinct.
My definition of an around the way girl is a female who can rock the latest Jordan’s daily and she’ll get as much attention as the female in 6in Giuseppe’s. She is also a woman with smart mouth that does not mind checking anyone. She stays up on all the latest fashions, knows the lyrics to all the hottest hip hop songs, and she enjoys hanging with the fellows. She has a walk that will catch everyone’s attention, yet she talks with street slang (LL taught me lol).
In this age of social media, much of society is so blinded by images of models and being bad and boujee that no one wants to be the girl next door any more. We want our faces beat, our hair to our waist, we suffer the pain of Red Bottoms, and carry Gucci bags with negative banks accounts just to take pictures and show the world that we are fabulous.Recently while in Atlanta, I visited Lennox to do some shopping for my birthday. Now we all know Lennox’s reputation so before going out I made sure my hair was on point, face semi beat, and I had on a pair of 6in heels. I also advised one of my friends that she needed to change from the flats she had on to some heels. After about an hour of walking, I felt as though my feet were going to fall off (literally). The pain was the worst and the constant walking did not help any. Of course I was doing some shopping so I struggled to carry the bags and walk gracefully as my feet hurt so bad. But I was determined that I was going to maintain that bad and boujee image lol, even if it killed me.
Ladies, I think there are a lot of guys that are missing that around the way type a girl that social media and this generation is slowly taking from us. They miss the regular girls, that don’t want to be a boss chics, don’t want to change the world, don’t need 500 likes, and don’t hold back their tongue. These are the girls that dress comfortably but are beautiful effortlessly. She likes to hang out laughing and joking with the guys, and cool with bar hopping. She doesn’t need a section in the club, or photo shoots. She’s cool with a date to Applebee’s and not Ruth’s Chris. She’s okay with a weekend vacation down to Myrtle Beach, and not breaking the bank to hit Cabo or Miami. She worked hard at her 9-5 every day and was independent.
We are now in a time when strippers, reality stars, scammers, and social media models are idolized. It’s rare that you see the around the way girl, and if you do she is labeled as being basic. She’s is just a regular girl, that is happy with her life and who she is. I was once that girl, but I have conformed to society. I traded my J’s for heels, my natural hair for bundles and my lip gloss for a full face beat. This is who I am now, and I am comfortable with it, but I must admit I do miss that around the way girl persona.
I know there are a lot of guys out there that miss it as well. Ladies be comfortable, you don’t always have to be perfect, the guys are looking for what’s real not perfect.