The Around The Way Girl

Recently I had a discussion with a close friend and he stated that he missed the around the way girls. Until that point, I hadn’t realized that around the way girls was pretty much becoming extinct.

 My definition of an around the way girl is a female who can rock the latest Jordan’s daily and she’ll get as much attention as the female in 6in Giuseppe’s. She is also a woman with smart mouth that does not mind checking anyone. She stays up on all the latest fashions, knows the lyrics to all the hottest hip hop songs, and she enjoys hanging with the fellows. She has a walk that will catch everyone’s attention, yet she talks with street slang (LL taught me lol).

In this age of social media, much of society is so blinded by images of models and being bad and boujee that no one wants to be the girl next door any more. We want our faces beat, our hair to our waist, we suffer the pain of Red Bottoms, and carry Gucci bags with negative banks accounts just to take pictures and show the world that we are fabulous.Recently while in Atlanta, I visited Lennox to do some shopping for my birthday. Now we all know Lennox’s reputation so before going out I made sure my hair was on point, face semi beat, and I had on a pair of 6in heels. I also advised one of my friends that she needed to change from the flats she had on to some heels. After about an hour of walking, I felt as though my feet were going to fall off (literally). The pain was the worst and the constant walking did not help any. Of course I was doing some shopping so I struggled to carry the bags and walk gracefully as my feet hurt so bad. But I was determined that I was going to maintain that bad and boujee image lol, even if it killed me.

 Ladies, I think there are a lot of guys that are missing that around the way type a girl that social media and this generation is slowly taking from us. They miss the regular girls, that don’t want to be a boss chics, don’t want to change the world, don’t need 500 likes, and don’t hold back their tongue. These are the girls that dress comfortably but are beautiful effortlessly. She likes to hang out laughing and joking with the guys, and cool with bar hopping. She doesn’t need a section in the club, or photo shoots. She’s cool with a date to Applebee’s and not Ruth’s Chris. She’s okay with a weekend vacation down to Myrtle Beach, and not breaking the bank to hit Cabo or Miami. She worked hard at her 9-5 every day and was independent. 

We are now in a time when strippers, reality stars, scammers, and social media models are idolized. It’s rare that you see the around the way girl, and if you do she is labeled as being basic. She’s is just a regular girl, that is happy with her life and who she is. I was once that girl, but I have conformed to society. I traded my J’s for heels, my natural hair for bundles and my lip gloss for a full face beat. This is who I am now, and I am comfortable with it, but I must admit I do miss that around the way girl persona. 

I know there are a lot of guys out there that miss it as well. Ladies be comfortable, you don’t always have to be perfect, the guys are looking for what’s real not perfect.

 “Around the way, you’re like neighborhood jewel all the  homeboys sweat ya, you’re so crazy cool” LL Cool J

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HerStory: Women’s History Month

March is the month we celebrate women’s history. Although Hilary made a lot of noise for women in 2016 as the first female democratic nominee for the POTUS position. I want to recognize two different sets of women that definitely made herstory (history).

The first is Katherine G. Johnson, Dorothy Vaughan and Mary Jackson other known as “Hidden Figures”. These women worked for NASA and were the beauty and brains behind the launch of astronaut John Glen into space. These beauties were mathematicians who defined all odds against them. I heard of the book for the first time in 2016 and could not believe this had not been incorporated more into our history books..  It does make me wonder how many other “hidden figures” are out there.

The next female that recently made herstory (history), is Teresa Shook. Now you’re probably asking who is Teresa Shook. Well Teresa decided on Nov 9, 2016,(the day after Trump won election) to create a Facebook event inviting her friends to march on Washington during the inauguration weekend. Little did she know an estimate 2.6 million women would participate in the march in cities across the United States. It was solidarity at its finest. Women of all colors, classes, creeds joining together in love. Definitely herstory (history) was made on January 21,2017.

Ladies 2017 is our year. Let’s continue to build each other up in love and unity.

It’s not too late for you take part in this women’s movement. It has been announced March 8 is officially “Day Without Women”. This also International Women’ Day.

There are three rules for participation:

  1. Take the day off work
  2. Shop at women and minority owned businesses 
  3. Wear Red

This day is to show the world how valuable women are to our society. 

The Unapologetic Year

This past week I celebrated my birthday turning thirty-fine years old. On my actual birthday it was pretty chill. I spent the weekend with friends and loved ones in ATL. 

I decided this would be my “unapologetic”year. Let me explain what I mean.

If you know me personally, you know that typically I’m laid back, chill, friendly and non confrontational. I have always been a people pleaser and would often make sure others were happy at my own expense. Nothing bothered me more then knowing someone was mad or upset with me. 

I also have always carried myself in a way that I thought others wanted to view me in. The way I dressed, talked and moved depended on the environment I was. This caused me to actually lose my self. Not that it was being fake, that’s just the type person I was. Adjusting to my surroundings and environment but not being true to Kei.

But this year everything is changing. I’m going to unapologetically be me. I’m going to live life care free doing what makes me happy. If a person decides one day they don’t like me, it’s their loss. I will no longer change myself based on others feelings. If I want something I’m going to get it. 

In corporate world, I’m still kind of quiet. But I am most falsely judged there. Because of my title, I get false accusations and I have to hold my head down a lot. I’ve made my mind up that unapologetically I’m going to be me. If something is good, I will praise. If it’s bad I will correct it. I no longer will stand in the shadows of of others. I will be me at all times. Unapologetically.

My focus in 2017 is winning by any means necessary. This is my time to make my visions come true. If I post 100 selfies a day, I will do it unapologetically not caring who likes it. I don’t think I’m gorgeous but I did fight hard to become this woman. Every time I take an image I like it reminds me how I far I came. I will post statuses on social media, unapologetically. Those pose in past have helped a lot of people. I will share my success and my failure unapologetically.

Most of all I’m going to be the best Kei I can be… unapologetically.

My future is bright, small town girl with big dreams making them happen. I’m doing it all unapologetically.

Thanks everyone for birthday wishes. This was best birthday in a long time. 

Keeping up with Kei is about to be real major…. unapologetically